The Wedding, With Pictures And Minimal Snark!

It’s picture pages day here at Coquetting Tarradiddles, and I’ve got a dozen or so wedding photos to share with the quivering horde of my readership. I’ll (try and fail to) go light on the prose and heavy on the visual aids today, so let’s get started. For the less net-savvy amongst you, remember that you can click on any picture for a larger version. The first photo up for viewing was taken after the ceremony, during the interminable period of posing that follows any wedding, where the same smile must be replicated without end as the infinite combinations of interchangeable people are interchanged and combined before the blinding strobes of incessantly exploding flashbulbs and plaintive requests to ‘hold that pose and say cheese!’ People say it’s a long journey to the altar, but this is misleading. The longest journey is, in fact, walking away from the altar, as friends and family are arranged around you in every possible order in a twisted photographic version of a jumbled Rubik’s Cube. Eventually, owing to the expense of film in the past and now, presumably, to the limited battery life of digital cameras, the voracious appetite of the photographer is sated and the wedding can proceed to the reception.

Fortunately, while myself and my groomsmen (and eventually my sister and brother-in-law, my mother and my two nephews, my godson and other assorted peoples) were busily engaged in complex negotiations with Trey involving bribery and extortion as we attempted to persuade him that wearing tuxedos is cool, Brittany and her bridesmaids were sharing the delicate and dainty confines of the bridal parlor with the photographer. So, while I was cramped into a tiny, antiseptic office space with nearly a dozen other people all occupied by a crying, half-naked toddler who seemed convinced that dress pants would burn his skin like a crucifix to a vampire, Brittany and her gal pals lounged in the luxury of soft velvet and hair product. During this time, makeup was applied, hair was styled, and various snapshots were captured by the photographer’s lens. Here is one of them:

How about some Harlan Ellison? Terry Pratchett?
Yes, Brittany was so terribly busy, yet she somehow managed to squeeze in a little light reading whilst me and a small army of adults were being defeated by the iron will of a stubborn three year old. She swears that this was a posed photo, that the photographer asked if Brittany had a book she could pretend to read, and that the whole thing was staged to capture my bride in her natural environment (behind the cover of a paperback), but I don’t buy it. Sure, Brittany has a book on her person at all times like a Texas version of a Connecticut Gilmore girl, but she wouldn’t carry one in her purse on her wedding day, would she? She claims it was in the trunk of her car, but I’m not so sure. There’s usually a book in her purse – and labeling the prodigious monstrosities she lugs about as ‘purses’ is an understatement along the lines of calling The Hundred Years War a minor disagreement followed by a brief but pleasant skirmish in the fields of Agincourt – so I doubt the validity of this trunk business. Also, she’s clearly holding a Nora Roberts book up to her eyeballs which, as anyone who knows Brittany understands, can only mean that she is actively reading it. She can’t resist, even when I buy her a third copy of a book I didn’t know she even had one copy of. She’ll happily read and re-read and read again any and all words the woman has ever written. It’s disturbing, really.

Ah, now this is more like it! Here we have a lovely photo of my blushing bride-to-be as she enters the home stretch of all her lounging and pampering and trashy romance novel reading before the ceremony. Only moments after this photo was taken, the oppressive dictatorial rule of the church’s wedding coordinator would see Brittany and her bridesmaids out on the showroom floor and strutting down the aisle like effeminate versions of John Travolta, sans paint cans.

The organ swells, the gathered crowd stands, the doors fly open and the bride emerges. The mood is serious and reverent, all eyes focusing on her beauty and grace as she glides mysteriously down the aisle, floating between the pews and the golden hues of autumnal foliage that adorns them. In the distance, I stand in silence as a vision in white slips slowly into focus. (And I do mean slowly. My contacts were giving me no end of grief that day, as the congregation would later witness when my sensitive ocular organs were aggravated beyond tolerance by the um…dust…or whatever it was that got in my eye as we were saying our vows. Yeah, dust. That’s the ticket!) As the haze clears and the bits and bobs of detail begin to come into focus, I see my bride and I go gooshey. Fortunately for my masculinity, the photographer chose this precise moment to either neglect the pythagorean theorem or intentionally abuse it in a brief but inspired examination of the concept of depth of field. Either way, I’m blurry and Brittany is in focus, right down to her brass-knuckled Hello, Kitty tattoo. Meow!

Hello, Kitty!
After the ceremony came the aforementioned mix-n-match photo shoot with family members, the bridal party, friends, etc… It was during the seventy thousandth shot or so, after I remembered that I hate cameras but before the temporary blindness set in, that it occurred to me just how evil modern photographic equipment is. I remember the days when you only had to endure the blinding light of an exploding flashbulb just once per picture, but now we’re forced to suffer the seizure-inducing epileptic strobe of a thousand micro flashes before the big one hits and burns your retinas. It makes it almost impossible for me to not have drunk face in most photos, as my heightened mutant senses make my eyes hypersensitive to bright light. (That’s what I tell myself, anyway. In truth, I just think I’m a crappy vampire, burdened with all of the shortcomings and weaknesses, but with none of the perks like immortality, super strength, and the moist adoration of a million angst-ridden teenage girls. Tragic, really.) Towards the end of the ordeal, the photographer requested that we stage a few candid shots. After my mind wrestled with the inevitable cognitive dissonance that such a request demands, I simply turned the floor over to Brittany and played Jerry Seinfeld to her Cosmo Kramer as the straight man reacting to her outlandish posing. Not that there’s anything wrong with that…

What’s the deal with posing?
With the vows and the eternal pledging of ourselves before God and man out of the way, it was time to move on to the reception. The reception is intended to be a time to relax and bask in the warm and radiant glow that comes from being newly wed, when the stresses and anxieties of the wedding are behind you and the future is laid out before your feet, awash in a sea of endless possibilities. In reality – and if you’re married, you’ll understand this all too well – the reception is nothing of the sort. It is busy and quick and confusing, as the bride and groom are beset on all sides by congratulatory handshakes and the warm wishes of people who’s names you can’t remember. You’re shuffled about and assailed by the unsolicited wisdom and advice of everyone from a happily married couple who recently celebrated their fiftieth anniversary to the bizarre and incoherent ramblings of some random guy no one remembers inviting. You do things like…

These pretzels are making me thirsty!
Pretend you’re human pretzels as you intertwine your arms and consume alcohol – or, if your church is of the Footloosian persuasion – sparkling apple cider…

You approach a large cake protected by the spot-welded plate armor of a thick layer of fondant that proves utterly impervious to the assaults of mortal men as you attempt to deftly cut away a small and modest wedge only to eventually resort to violently hacking away at it like an enraged Norwegian berserker armed only with a silver cake knife and a burning grudge against pastries…

You answer the same question over and over again for the culturally illiterate attendees of your reception who have no idea that your cake topper is actually an action figure playset of Buffy the Vampire Slayer and her star-crossed lover Angel that has been hot glued together and set in a position of honor on top of the bride’s cake. Of course, if any of your guests do know of Buffy and Angel, then you’ll have to answer follow-up questions concerning just how much neither you nor your bride resembles either character. For the record, Brittany is an amalgamation of 15% Willow and 15% Tara blended into 70% Anya. She’s a sweet, bookish sort of girl who says whatever’s on her mind in the most sarcastic way possible, and could turn evil and flay you alive if you piss her off. For my part, I’m about 40% Spike, 20% Xander, 20% Giles, 10% Wesley, 5% Riley and 5% Angel. I’m an irreverent and narcissistic smart ass who routinely spazes out and makes a fool of himself, but ultimately comes through in a pinch and saves the day, armed with some arcane wisdom and a bit of slapstick. Also, I brood…

How appropriate. You fight like a cow.
You answer another question over and over again as even less people have any idea what Monkey Island is, or why on Earth your groom’s cake is covered with sugar-icing “water” and gum-paste Caribbean “foliage”. Long story short, the scene on the groom’s cake recreates the setting of my proposal to Brittany, in that the proposal was set on the fictional Scabb Island located in a fictional version of the Caribbean as depicted in the fictional computer game The Secret Of Monkey Island 2: LeChuck’s Revenge and played on Brittany’s pink Nintendo DS via a customized game cartridge and a copy of SCUMMVM. If you’re still confused, it’s probably for the best. Or, you could just click here.

As everything winds down, you dance and toast and eventually walk out into a floating sea of soap bubble wisps, because apparently rice kills birds and birdseed can’t be left on the ground and has to be swept up. It seems to me that birds are very stupid things, otherwise they would eat the avian-appropriate seeds and avoid the lethality of rice, thus negating the need for hundreds of soapy fingers and the asthmatic wheeze of senior citizens and/or smokers attempting to blow a perfect floaty bubble from tiny plastic wands dipped in tule-covered bottles.

Cheeky Sugars!

Goodbyes are waved, kisses are given, and the newlyweds drive off towards matrimonial bliss as dozens of obnoxiously loud aluminum cans scrape the pavement behind them, waking the dead and aggravating the neighbors. All in all, it’s a pretty fun event. Old friends journey far to attend and regale your new spouse with embarrassing stories from your past, while different family members surprise and impress you by attending. Gifts are received and put to immediate use, and the happy couple gets to drive away and avoid the messy hassle of cleaning up.

Yes, that’s Trey on the bottom right. Yes, he’s wearing his tuxedo.
No, there was no Photoshop huggermuggery involved…
Honest!

Of course, if you get sick later that night and then lost the next day on the terrible backroads and byways of scary Texas towns, you might pause to rethink your situation. Then again, if you’re going to get miserably sick and hopelessly lost, then there’s no one better with which to do it than the person you just married. In fact, even the worst of things can be made enjoyable when in the proper company. Fortunately, through the hard work and dedication of a few family members and some amazing friends, our wedding was about as far from horrible as one can get without coming back around the other side. The decorations were beautiful, the food was delicious, and the company of all the people who matter in our lives made it a perfect wedding. Both Brittany and I will be forever grateful to everyone involved and thankful for everyone who attended. Even the ones who didn’t watch Buffy!




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